Work-life Balance: Mary's Case
It is 10pm, she is about to leave the office, she drives home and just realized that this pattern has been going on for months now… she cannot remember the last time she had willing kiss from her 5 year old. That’s right, as she opens the door to her home, her child is already asleep, and tomorrow morning she will be at work before seeing her child off to the kindergarten.
Her husband is also working hard and travelling quite a bit. The couple has not had a meal together in 4 months. They seem to always just miss each other for another meeting, although they are living under the same roof.
Mary is wondering whether after her promotion, this will stop! Or will she get a promotion? Is this promotion really what she wants? She decides to opt for coaching to get clarity her sentiments.
After clarifying Mary’s objectives and goals of partnering with the coach to go through her priorities and aspirations, she realized that her brilliance was unique and she could hold that knowledge of herself and walk her entire life with the awareness that what is important is what she really wants and is happy doing. The effort put in whatever she did was more appreciated then the outcome itself, speaking of both work-wise and home-wise. As a result, by paying attention in making herself happy, she realized the efficiency at her work and the impact she had over her interfaces with people at work and at home. At work, she began to see the strength on her colleagues which ultimately translated into her making more resourceful delegations, while being able to arrive home earlier and have dinner with her child and husband. She made a point to be interested about their daily routines and in turn they were of hers too.
Mary had begun to live in the present because she went through a sanity check on her personal performance, what it meant for herself and while she received skills to effectively support her wishes of bonding more with her family and work more efficiently at her job. Her perspective of what is important was redefined by her awareness of what makes her really happy.
Everyone is different and has different needs and aspirations, so this was Mary’s story.
I'm a leader so I should know best! Where is my EQ? John's Case
John has learnt a lot about himself! He thought he had no feelings, because that is what everyone tells him, as his wife tells him that he never cares about her, his children find him cold, his colleagues find him schrude and only interested to achieve his personal agenda. Obviously he did not agree, so we went to search who John really was.
Deep inside, we found out that John had a core limiting believe about himself, he is anguished by authority over him, so before letting anyone imposing something on him, he decides subconsciously to always be the first one to command an outcome, thereby controlling every single situation in the maximum capacity possible. John understands that socially and corporately, we are built in societies full of authorities and hierarchies, and he can accept that, what he cannot accept is individuals imposing commands on him, as he perceives that as a threat to what he wants to achieve in his aspirations.
Having this piece of awareness, made John realize his impact on the world around him and made him refocus his motivations vis-a-vis other people’s motivations, that they do not necessarily have to clash. John is today a much relaxed person and having also had his team and family gone through a coaching program, his world and him are more integrative and working through compliments and synergies instead of under the concept of constant competition.